| Location | Kilwinning |
| Age | 2 years |
| Date of Birth | 04/07/2005 |
| Date of Death | 27/05/2008 |
| Visitors | 4,579 since 14/08/2008 |
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Elissa was born at 24wks gestation and had to struggle from the day she was born. She was an amazing little fighter and everytime a new problem was thrown at her she seemed to fight back with a smile. Due to being born too soon she had cerebral palsy and cortical blindness. She also had numerous problems with her bowel and stomach and ended up being tube fed.
Unfortunately she spent more of her short life in hospital than she did at home but she was never short of attention and love. She didnt have one mummy she had lots of mummys because of all the nurses becoming like family. Her older brother Jamie always made her smile and loved going to visit her while she was in the hospital. When she was well enough Elissa did go to nursery and made lots of friends. They all used to help her play with tactile toys and sit with her while she was getting a story. Elissa may not have been able to speak but her smile used to say a thousand words.
In the few months before she died she started going to Robin House Hospice and she enjoyed every minute she was there. The staff were amazing and got Jamie involved when Elissa went swimming or to the farm park. Both kids got to spent time together without me having to worry about whether Elissa would get ill or not.
On May 25th 2008 Elissa became unwell while she was at home for the day. Nothing out of the ordinary for her but we took her back to the childrens ward to be checked over. They did what they would normally do, give her pain releif and put her on a drip. I knew I was in for a night of it but nothing prepared me for what was coming. At 9pm her monitor started beeping and I thought she was asleep (she was all curled up lying on my chest, her fav position) the nurse came in and said she wasnt breathing properly. We lay her down and she was only taking 2 breaths a minute. I knew then there was something really wrong. The next thing I knew there was 5 docs and 2 nurses in the room. They ordered bloods and xrays but I knew they were all thinking the same as me, she had no fight left. These docs had became like family to us as Elissa had been on the ward so long and I could see no-one wanted to have to say it but eventually the consultant on call sat me down and told me she had given up. My little princess Elissa was dying. I broke down, made the phonecalls everyone dreads and the next thing I knew all who mattered were by her side. It didnt look like she would make it though the night but as usual Elissa did it her way. The following morning it was agreed she could be transfered to the hospice. So the registrar came and took Elissas line out and we were ready for transfer. One of the amazing comm nurses took us in the car, everyone thinking she wouldnt make the journey but she made it to the hospice. We got her settled in to her room and I got a chance of a hot shower, a nice dinner and knowing Elissa was being watched over by wonderful staff. That night I stayed in her room with her. Then at 8am on 27th May I woke up just as my little princess Elissa had taken her last breath. I cried and cried but I knew she was no longer suffering. The staff at the hospice wee fantastic, they helped with her big brother. Kept him occupied by taking him out as we began to organise things. She was moved to the Rainbow Room where the kids can stay until the day of the funeral. It was lovely, decorated with pictures, her fav music playing, pink fairy lights round the bed and a projector on the wall of a teddy bears picnic. That afternoon her consultant and comm nurse came to the hospice to say goodbye. It was really hard but also nice, her consultant was breaking her heart. I still cry thinking about how caring and loving she was towards Elissa.
On 3rd June 2008 Elissa was laid to rest. The service was perfect. Just fitting for my little angel. She has a pink coffin decorated with Fifi and was bought in by her grandad and uncle Alexander while the Marching Song from the Jungle Book was playing. The service was taken by the 2 ministers fom the hospice so it was very personal. It was so hard saying those final goodbyes, knowing that I wouldnt see her again.
My little angel is now free from pain. I miss her so much everyday.
My preicous little Button i know you were my Dragonfly
The Dragonfly
Once, in a little pond, in the muddy water under the lily pads,
there lived a little water beetle in a community of water
beetles. They lived a simple and comfortable life in the pond
with few disturbances and interruptions.
Once in a while, sadness would come to the community when one of
their fellow beetles would climb the stem of a lily pad and
would never be seen again. They knew when this happened; their
friend was dead, gone forever.
Then, one day, one little water beetle felt an irresistible urge
to climb up that stem. However, he was determined that he would
not leave forever. He would come back and tell his friends what
he had found at the top.
When he reached the top and climbed out of the water onto the
surface of the lily pad, he was so tired, and the sun felt so
warm, that he decided he must take a nap. As he slept, his body
changed and when he woke up, he had turned into a beautiful
blue-tailed dragonfly with broad wings and a slender body
designed for flying.
So, fly he did! And, as he soared he saw the beauty of a whole
new world and a far superior way of life to what he had never
known existed.
Then he remembered his beetle friends and how they were thinking
by now he was dead. He wanted to go back to tell them, and
explain to them that he was now more alive than he had ever been
before. His life had been fulfilled rather than ended.
But, his new body would not go down into the water. He could
not get back to tell his friends the good news. Then he
understood that their time would come, when they, too, would
know what he now knew. So, he raised his wings and flew off
into his joyous new life!
I believe my precious little button came to visit me , if you look in my pictures you will see a beautiful dragonfly landed on me one day when i was out walking. i feel so lucky
~Author Unknown~
Birthdays In Heaven - by Karen Henderson
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Are there birthdays in Heaven?
Does the Angel blow his horn?
Announcing to everybody
That this is the day you were born?
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Can the stars be your balloons
And angel food your cake?
Presents wrapped in moonbeams
All the Angels helped to make.
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Birthdays meant so much to you
They were always a big deal
Birthday presents, lots of friends
And perhaps a special meal.
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So I’ll whisper a little prayer today
Asking everyone up above
To sing you a Happy Birthday song
And give you all my love.
Copyright of Karen Henderson
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Birthday Girl xxx
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Gran and Grandads little button
Its hard to believe it will be 3 years tomorrow that you were taken from us and got your angel wings Button.
I had a little grand child Elissa was her name
A special little girl
Who lived a life of pain
Yet she never showed it
And was as happy as could be
And oh my god she meant the world to me.
In my heart she will always be
Along with all my memories
Although I am sad that she has gone
I thank the lord she's now pain free
Love you Button
Gran and Grandad xxx
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Christmas Hugs and Kisses from Grandad and your little Princess
Merry Christmas to my Mummy and big brother Jamie
Guess what Great Granddad and I do during the night
We sit on your beds and watch you sleep
Kiss your heads and tickle your feet.
You are aware we are with you
As you smile and say
Goodnight precious angels
Now please behave
Granddad laughs and tickles you again
You smile and laugh
When before you would cry
I know you are sad we have both gone
But guess what mummy I can now sing a song
I play with my granddad all day long.
He teaches me things that make me strong
Great Granddad and I played in the snow
My toes and my fingers were all a glow
Oh mum if only you could see
The fun we are having my Granddad and me
Great Granddad wants me to tell you all
That he loves and misses you
From the tips of his fingers
To the end of his toes
I love you Mummy and i am always withyou.
xxx
Author Gail Nicol
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An Angel From Heaven
God sent me an angel from heaven above
It's filled with complete unconditional love
It watches and follows wherever I go
If I'm happy or sad this little angel does know
It climbs upon my lap and wipes away all my tears
One look in those eyes wipes away all my fears
For in those soft gentle eyes there’s something I see
Which speaks to me silently 'you always have me'
As those soft gentle kisses bring a smile to my face
And a love in my heart which can't be replaced
It continues to tell me in it's own special way
Of how much it loves me as it begins to say
'At night I will cuddle by your side while you sleep
My life is to love you, this promise I keep
I'll wake you come morning with kisses galore
You'll giggle and laugh and ask me for more'
'When sadness you feel or life lets you down
I'll do whatever it takes to wipe off your frown
I'll show you some tricks, I'll bring you my toy
Or rest my head in your lap, if this brings you joy'
'If sickness should keep you in bed for the day
I'll stay right beside you, we don't have to play
And if going for walks is something you do
I'll be your companion take me with you'
I'll try hard to show you my love is so strong
I'll try only to please you, I'll try not to do wrong
If a mistake I should make, then I ask this of you
Remember that angels can make mistakes too'
'I'll ask not much of you, it's for love that I yearn
Because loves what god taught me to give in return
It's all unconditional and comes straight from the heart
And my promise I give you till death do us part'
'So this is my story one I wanted to share
Of my littlest angel who's always right there
This littlest angel that I'm so thankful of
Yes this littlest angel of unconditional love'
by Unknown Author
Love you Button Gran xxx
To Grans little button
Your Mummy phoned me this morning and asked if your granddad could get your big brother Jamie a sledge so he could go out and play in the snow. Gran could not help but laugh at thinking that Jamie would have wanted your mummy to put you on the sledge with him so you could have a go. It made Gran think how lucky she was to have you, even though it was only for a short while as it allows me to visualise you and Jamie together sledging down the hill out the front. Hope you having lots of fun throwing snowballs and playing in the snow Button. Don’t forget you can jump on the sledge with your brother and give him a wee cuddle while you there xxx
Love you Button
Precious Child by Karen Taylor Good
In my dreams, you are alive and well
Precious child, precious child
In my mind, I see you clear as a bell
Precious child, precious child
In my soul, there is a hole
That can never be filled
But in my heart, there is hope
'Cause you are with me still
In my heart, you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart
In my plans, I was the first to leave
Precious child, precious child
But in this world, I was left here to grieve
Precious child, my precious child
In my soul, there is a hole
That can never be filled
But in my heart there is hope
And you are with me still
In my heart you live on
Always there, never gone
Precious child, you left too soon,
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart
God knows I want to hold you,
See you, touch you
And maybe there's a heaven
And someday I will again
Please know you are not forgotten until then
In my heart you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart
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